Sometimes we feel that people know we are thankful so we don’t need to verbalize it, though is that the right thing to do?
We live in a world with a lot of online transactions and mobile orders, mobile deposits do it yourself, self service, and because of that, we condition ourselves a certain way, even with our personal interactions.
And sometimes if someone will do you a favor, you’ll feel that it’s enough that you appreciate what they did, but you don’t need to actually verbalize it. We don’t like interact so much with everybody that we deal with.
Rav Yeruchem Levovitz says that this is a mistake, and we are taught otherwise by the mitzvah of bikurim.
When somebody brings bikurim, they mentioned their appreciation to Hashem for all that He gave them, and they even go back in history to the Jewish nation’s appreciation for Hashem, that He saved them up until this point.
And we learn from there that it’s not enough to just be appreciative. You need to express your appreciation. If somebody does you a favor, don’t convince yourself they know that I appreciate them, I don’t need to go ahead and keep on talking and give them detail of what they did, they know that, I don’t need to interact with them. No, you need to express your appreciation verbally and tell the person how much you appreciate what they did. The more detail you give, the better it is.
And that is a message that we should all learn from the mitzvah of bikurim and it will enhance your relationships, your friendships, and hopefully it will make you a better person.
Have a great Shabbos.
Avraham Kohn produces marketing videos for companies and organizations, helping them make money.